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This time of year, I always get to thinking about past holiday's. I get to remember when I was a kid and my grandparents were still around and we were all one big happy family. There was nothing to worry about, cause well I didn't know any better I was a kid. This was the time of year for all sorts of great things. Good food, presents, and family time. I loved it then and now.

It also got me to thinking about my own life, both good and bad. I wondered out loud the other night if I would change anything if I could. With that in mind, I decided to write myself a letter at the ripe ol' age of 18.


Dear Me,

I have some things you need to know, so just keep an open mind and read carefully. I don't expect you to believe that this letter comes from your own hand, but I can prove it with some tidbits of information. You got completely blitzed when you were 14. You were at your friends house and he snuck out his moms brandy and cognac. You tried to make it home, but passed out in the neighbors yard. Good thing for you they were good friends of the family. They took you in the house, cleaned you up and put you to bed. The worst part was the next morning when your dad showed up to bring you home. He made you get in the pool cause he said you were still drunk. He didn't realize back then that all it did was make you wide awake and drunk. He also made you go to your baseball all star tryouts hung over. You definitely learned a lesson that night, unfortunately you had to learn that same lesson a few more times till it stuck.

Convinced? Good, well I just want to let you know that you are doing OK. You are gonna make a few mistakes along the way and I want to warn you now about them. First of all, don't bother chasing after Maureen. She is not for you and she will just lead you on for a few years before moving on to someone else anyway ( and it won't be another guy if you know what I mean). You are going to marry your high school sweetheart, but that isn't going to work out. That doesn't mean you shouldn't go through with it though. You will get a great son out of the deal, and it's more than worth the pain and suffering she will cause you.

I know you are thinking about the military, well quit thinking about it and just join. It's going to be the defining moment in your young life. It will change everything about you and make you the man you are today. I promise that you will suffer when you go for a good 2 years, but you will also find out that you are a tough young man and you are capable of so many things you never dreamed were within your grasp. Turns out that dad is right you can do what you set your mind to.

When you get out of the service, don't jump at the first job you find. Shop around a little bit. You have a number of skills, don't let these people take advantage of you just because you are young. Also, don't work 3 jobs at once. It's bad for your health and if you keep doing it you will get sick and be in the hospital, I PROMISE!!!

You will get re-married and you are going to be happy. The 2 boys from this marriage are going to make you realize that your life is good. Make sure you take the time to teach your kids the right things, I don't mean sports so get your mind off of ESPN. This is about something far more important. Teach them to be good adults, they are sponges and they think you are pretty super, so don't blow it. The same thing goes for your wife. Make sure you let her know that she is a defining moment in your life. Every bit as important as all the others.

You will work a lot, play a little, and start to get old. You are gonna feel the effects of some of your dumb choices in life. Football is fun at your age, but it hurts later on in life, so remember that the next time you hurt that knee. Take care of your shoulder, it's gonna hurt you later on too if you don't get it operated on like the doctor wants.

All in all you have done OK. Don't sweat some of the small stuff like you do. Worry about it if you can change it, otherwise leave it alone. Make sure you tell Nonni and Nonno how important they are, same thing with Gramma and Grandpa. They won't be around forever you know.

That's all I have for you for now. Good Luck, I know you will be fine.

PS....If you get the chance to go out with Lorey A. Take it she is a pretty great girl and it would be a nice memory for us to have :)

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9 comments

Post of the year nominee...for sure

December 10, 2009 at 12:20 PM

very touching

December 10, 2009 at 3:52 PM

Very nice! Now to deliver it...

December 10, 2009 at 4:48 PM

Ah yes Kristy...you hit it....delivery would be a great final touch...if I figure out a way I'll let you know....

December 10, 2009 at 5:17 PM

I love this!!!!

It's sooo helpful to go where you just went. You wrote a letter to your younger self, yet your current self is listening closer than you know!

Great post!
Dayne

December 10, 2009 at 10:46 PM

This was so enjoyable to read! Too bad we didn't get letters when we were 18 - I'd have definitely rethought some of my choices! But then again, that's what makes us grow.

December 12, 2009 at 6:06 AM
Anonymous  

Very nice Bendigo (without an "N").
It was fun review of our own lives (I'm sure most of us joined you on that trip) but almost more importantly for me... it made me feel a little more secure about my teenage kids. Their "life journeys" are causing my hair to turn rapidly gray!!! Next time I feel scared or frustrated I'm going to remember that all of the angst we suffered as youth serves us well as adults. (Assuming we survive it!) Aaahhh!!!! Now I'm scared again!

December 12, 2009 at 8:39 AM

thanks for the comments everybody..
Dayne...you are right me now is definitely listening to it. It's sorta like a validation for me to do this sometimes. I sure hope that you guys were taking the ride with me, it's what makes this kinda thing great :)

December 12, 2009 at 1:42 PM

Bendigo..that was really touching. Very very nice text and Ian, before I read your comment, I was going to suggest this post as a nominee.

Sarah

December 13, 2009 at 3:37 PM

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